What I didn't know, understand (and still don't) but LIVE
BY:
1) He must feel that I
choose to be with him. He is a want...not a need
2) No grey areas
Where he meets you
actually does matter - You were dressed in a rather skimpy outfit at the
club. Men are visual creatures so in their memory you remain ‘that hot girl at
the club.’ A friend once said he is going to marry a girl he meets in a book
store or something of the sort. Men almost
always put women in
two categories: “good time only” or “worthwhile”. Their good time
only is like our friend zone - it’s a life sentence.
When he begs you to
take him back - truth is, HE DONT WANT YOU BACK. He is just checking where
he stands with you, net4 to boost his ego. He is trying to find out whether or
not you still got feelings for him or maybe to see if he can still hit that.
They keep their options open. Don’t allow yourself to be nice thinking you want
to show him you’re not bitter, because to him all that means is “I have a
chance to go back anytime I want to and you know it too.”
Pick your battles
- A man makes a choice to go and be with someone else. See, you have no
agreement with other girls not to take your man. Frankly they owe you nothing!
You however have an agreement with your man, he has to stay faithful to you. Think
about these contracts before you go lunging at people who owe you nothing you
might even get beat up!
If a man
could walk up to you and say, “Hi I am Jabulani and I think you are hot. Can I
hit it when I am bored?” And then this line is preceded by a negotiation of some
sort of schedule as to when to tap that, broken hearts would not need a place
to go. Poor Whitney Houston died looking for that place. Instead he has to
resort to flowers, candle lit dinner, massage and a bubble bath where he knows
he is about to get his reward for ‘doing a good job'. Mind you he has no problem with charming you to get you in bed, and make you feel like he is the
one. Men play the game women keep the score.
This is because women need a reason to be intimate…men just need a place.
Women are habituated to giving themselves
away. It’s seen in our constant need to look perfect. We are an ad campaign
evolving everyday trying to get attention. Typical example is the television we
watch - cooking channel, beauty and fashion etc. And men? Well men…watch the Discovery channel and talk about sports and cars. It has nothing to do with you.
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